Letting go has been described, analyzed, applied, debated, experimented, explained, for millennia by philosophers, religions, spiritual traditions, psychologists. It is beyond me to do an exegesis! And to discover it, understand it and choose it is a personal journey …
Here’s how I try to live it:
- Letting go is not being indifferent, but just admitting that we cannot act in place of someone else.
- Letting go is not severing ties, but being aware that we cannot control others.
- Letting go does not mean being passive, but to take a lesson of the consequences of an event.
- Letting go is not recognizing our impotence, but that the outcome lies in other hands.
- Letting go is to not blame or try to change others anymore, but to give our best.
- Letting go is not taking care of others by showing total abnegation, but feeling concerned about them.
- Letting go is to not baby-sit others, but to encourage them.
- Letting go is to not judge, but give others the right to be human.
- Letting go is to not deal with whatever happens, but to let others manage their own destiny.
- Letting go is to not mother others, but enable them to face reality.
- Letting go is not rejecting, but on the contrary it is accepting.
- Letting go is to not harass, criticize, preach or scold, but try to identify our own weaknesses and get rid of them.
- Letting go is to not want to constantly adapt things to our own desires, but take each day as it comes and enjoy it.
- Letting go is to not criticize or correct others, but become ever more fully who we deeply are.
- Letting go is to not regret the past, and live and grow in the present for the future.
- Letting go is to fear less and love more.